Just Jump

Today we made the hour drive to big ole Piedmont, South Carolina for some friends of ours, Josh and Amanda's youngest daughter's first birthday party. It was a pool party with lots of kids. What's the easiest way to get kids tired and ready for a nap? Yep, swimming.

Sweet Amanda was designated to be the adult in the pool with all the kids. Kudos to you Amanda! Since Peyton is only 3 and doesn't really know how to swim yet, or at least keep her head above water, she had to use the little floaties the kiddos had on their arms. And of course her favorite thing to do is jump into the pool. Being the sweet lady that she is, Amanda let Peyton stand on the side of the pool and jump and jump and jump and jump (and jump some more) into her arms in the pool each time. Being a parent myself, I knew Amanda would catch her every time so I wasn't the least bit worried.

But here's my thought.

Neither was Peyton. Peyton had just met Amanda not even an hour ago and felt so comfortable jumping into her arms. She knew Amanda would catch her. She had no doubt, question, or concern. She just knew. Peyton put all of her faith and trust into Amanda, someone she had just met.

What if our faith was that way? What would our lives be like if we just jumped right into God's arms and let Him catch us. Let him be in complete control of our lives and put all of our trust in Him without any doubt, question, or concern? No matter how much we think we know Him or have a relationship with Him, there are still some parts of our lives we still want control of. What if we just gave it all to Him? What would our faith be like? How would our lives change? Who we be able to help change other people's lives?

Just jump! I promise He will catch you! Each and every time!

Healing

I don't think that there is much more that I could explain on this verse. It says what it means and means what it says. Just take in that thought for today.

The Act of Balancing

Last night was the first night of America’s Got Talent for this season. I personally think this season is going to be the best one yet. There was some pretty great talent shown last night while some of the ones shown weren’t as great. But one act in particular stuck out to me the most.

It was a hand balancing at. I’m not going to attempt to pronounce or even spell his name. But he had a son with him who was his assistant named Carlos.

This man would balance on his hands on poles. Once he was good and balanced on the first set of poles, his assistant would throw another pole at him and he would stack that pole on top of the other ones. Making himself taller. And without using anything  but his hands, he would continue to balance on them while his assistant kept throwing more and more poles at him to where he was touching the lights on the ceiling. That’s pretty high up there.

Why does that one stick out to me?

Because that’s how we do with life. We try to balance it all on our own. But without God’s help we can’t do it on our own. As we continue to go through everyday life, God keeps giving us the tools that we need to keep climbing. Just like the assistant. He kept throwing the poles to the balancer and the balancer would keep climbing. How high up would he have been able to go without his assistant? Not very high because he wouldn’t have anyone to throw him the poles. As long as we keep relying on God, He will continue to give us the tools that we need to go through life. How far are we going to be able to go without God? Not very far.

After Memorial Day

Yesterday all across the United States there were millions of people celebrating. Celebrating our freedom and thanking soldiers who have and who are currently serving for our country.

There was barbeques and swimming, dancing and laughing, games and time spent together.

As soon as I opened Facebook yesterday just about everyone was thanking our military. Past and present who fight so bravely to keep us safe while we sit in our comfy homes with our happy families.

I am so glad that we take a day to thank and appreciate these brave soldiers, men and women, but I want to leave you with this.

Is Memorial Day the only day that you thank these veterans? Is it the only time you stop to think about them? They fight daily for us. So the very least we could do is pray for them daily.

Next time you see a soldier, thank them. Let them know that you still think about them even after Memorial Day.

Change the World

There’s something that has been weighing heavy on my heart lately and I want to share it with you.

-The world could be a better place if we stopped judging someone for what they did and the mistakes they made and helped them through the situation, guide them in the right direction and help grow them into the people they are called to be.-

What do you think?

Here are a few scenarios:

1.       A man that works close with many women at his job has an affair. Wrong? Yes it is. But what if someone took the time to spend with him to teach him how to avoid situations that would lead to something like that. As well as trying ti figure out what he could do to possibly save his marriage .

 2.       We see it all the time. A teenage girl gets pregnant. What’s the first thing most people think? She’s not married, in school, and a teenager. But what if another mother spent some time with her and showed her how to raise a child, take care of herself, and maybe change the new mom’s life for the better?

3.       A guy is addicted to drugs. People think he’s a druggie and will never amount to anything. What would happen if someone sat down with him and showed this man that he doesn’t need drugs to have a good life. Maybe the man had a bad life growing up and that’s all he knows. But if someone took some of their time and gave it to this man addicted to drugs, he could possibly turn his life around and actually have a better life.

 

Just some thoughts to think about today. Think about what impact we could have on the world if we stopped judging and started helping.

Fairytale Marriage

Before you got married or if you are not married yet, what did you picture your marriage to be like? All fun and games? No arguing? Romantic candle lit dinners every night? Always cuddling before going to bed?

That’s exactly how I imagined it to be. I knew in my mind that there would be hard times. Times where we might fuss and not agree on things. I mean come on, we’re in love. Things couldn’t be that bad in a marriage, right? Growing up, my parents never fought. At least they didn’t in front of my brother and me. A lot of kids that see their parents fight constantly and there are some that don’t see their parents fight at all.

There are times where it will be all fun and games, never arguing, romantic candle lit dinners and cuddling before bedtime. But it won’t always be like that. While fairytales are great stories, they also set up teens and young women for disappointment. In fairytales, there are always smiling faces, floating hearts around their heads and eyes that can’t be taken off of each other. Occasionally, marriage is like that. I’m not saying that marriage is terrible and it’s going to be boring along with an uphill struggle daily.

There are going to be times where you don’t have romantic dinner or even cuddle before bed. There are going to be plenty of times where you two will fight and not get along. But is that when you give up? Absolutely not. It’s so easy for a couple to get divorced now a days and most couples think that if it doesn’t work out they can just separate and go on their own way.

But that’s really not how marriage is designed. When you said “I do” you meant forever. Through the good times and bad, the times when you two are fussing and the times when you can’t stand to look at each other. However, those are just situations. Situations that can be overcome, learned from and avoided in the future. How you handle your tough times in marriage is going to have an impact on the good times in your marriage.

Since I never saw my parents fight (which I am thankful for) I didn’t know how to handle fighting in my own marriage. It took a lot of prayer, guidance and a lot of learning on both sides for us to know the difference between what is important and the things that we can just let go without arguing about. After that I think is when we truly learned how to love each other.

So think about this: how you choose to speak, act, and do for your spouse will affect your marriage.

Quick Poll

I want to do a bible study and I am back and forth on which way to do it. If you don't mind please take this quick poll and let me know which you would rather do! Your feedback is greatly appreciated and completely anonymous.

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God Has a Sense of Humor

Each and every one of us fall into one of two categories.

1.       A morning person
2.       Not a morning person.

I fall into the not a morning person category. I always hear and see people talk about how they get up super early and can do some house work, drink coffee, watch the news, read the paper, so on and so forth, all before work. Every night before bed I set my alarm for about 6:15am. Only to hit the snooze button till 7. I can’t help it, I like sleep.  I have to be at work at 8 every morning and can get up at 7. Leaving me just enough time to get Peyton and me ready for the day. This may include laying something out for supper, getting my lunch ready and checking social media. But most of the time one or two or all of those things get left undone because I don’t have enough time. I want to be one of those people that are able to get up early and can do all of the things others can do before going to work. I really do. I just don’t think that is ever going to happen for me.

One week, I got so frustrated at getting up so late and not being able to get everything done that I wanted to. Of course, I was trying to do this on my own. So one day I just prayed to God that He would allow me to be a morning person so I could get up and do everything that I needed to do before work and not be rushed. This went on for several days.

Then one morning about 5 am, Peyton woke up, for no reason. Since it was so early, I just put her back in bed and she went on to sleep. I walked into the kitchen to get something and stepped in a big spot of pee. Our dog decided to pee in the floor in the middle of the night, which she NEVER does. I get it cleaned up (and my foot) and continued to the kitchen. Only to step into another pile of pee. At this point, I was super frustrated. I can’t believe that the dog peed in the floor not once but twice. And I managed to step into both piles. Sure it's funny now but then not so much. I turn the lights on, clean up the second pile of pee and decide to go back upstairs to bed. It’s about 5:30am now so that’s another hour and a half more sleep that I could get. But no. That didn’t happen. I look in the living room to see piles of poop everywhere. Y’all I promise our dog did not and still does not pee or poop in the floor. Very irritated at this point, I clean up the poop, put the dog in the kennel and figured it’s about 6 am so there’s really no point in going back to bed. I have been up for an hour and would take me too long to go back to sleep. So what do I do? Get ready for the day.

You see what God did? He granted me what I wanted. I was able to get up early and get some things done without being rushed. He used unhappy circumstances to do it but He did it. I can almost picture Him looking down that morning laughing and saying something like "You got what you asked for."

When we pray, we need to be more specific in what we pray for.

John 14:13-

“And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son.”

Maybe I should have asked God to allow me to be a morning person with no stresses in the mornings, nothing crazy happen, or to just let me ease into a morning person. No, I went full force into just being a morning person I didn't care what happened to get me there.

I’m still not a morning person, but I don’t wait until as late as possible to get out of bed anymore.

 

Simple Saturday

My husband asked me a question the other night and I'm going to ask it to you. Leave a comment and tell me what you think.

"When someone does, why do people say God gained another angel today?"

Kissing Challenge

Have you ever noticed that with some marriages the kissing just stops or rarely happens at all? When we're dating we're all about the making out for long periods of time probably too often. Maybe it stops after marriage because we might want to start the car but not actually go anywhere. So it's possible that some women just avoid kissing their husband because they really just want to avoid sex. And it's sad because we as women want to always feel closer to our husbands.

Some of you may or may not have already heard about or experienced the 15 Second Kiss Challenge. There's no rules and the name says it all. You kiss your spouse for 15 seconds. Why should you do this challenge? It will automatically draw you two closer. Let's think about it...

• How long is 15 seconds anyway? You might think that's a pretty long time to be kissing. Maybe, but you love your spouse so why not do it? You can easily spend 15 seconds doing anything at all. We do it all the time. Spending time on facebook, pinterest, around the house, watching TV, daydreaming. All of those things can be put aside for another time. 

• After spending 15 seconds of amazing kissing, you will instantly feel closer to your spouse. And we all want to feel closer right?

• Kissing is like a drug. Once you have one of course you want to have more. Maybe you two have lost a little connection in certain areas. Start with the kissing challenge and you won't just feel closer, you will be closer.

So let's do it. Let's bring the kissing back in our marriages. Are ya'll one of the couples that can't keep their lips off each other? Good for ya'll! Keep it up. If you're the couple that have lost some kissing down the road somewhere, start with this challenge. I promise this will help your marriage. 

Want to share what this challenge is doing for you? Comment below and let me know. Sharing is a great way to communicate, encourage, and help others.

Go on, pucker up!

But You Don't Know What They Did..

I want you to do some thinking for this post. I want you to think about a time when you were absolutely hurt by someone. Best friend? Spouse? Child? Coworker? Boss? It could be anytime, anywhere, any situation. It could be from 20 years ago or even 2 days ago. This may be hard for some of you but just hang on. I'm hoping this will help.

Got your time in mind?

Great.

Think about how badly they hurt you. How did you feel when it happened? What ran through your mind? What did you do about it? How did you react? Could you have done something differently?

Have you forgiven them?

Ephesians 4:32 -

"Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you."

I know what you're thinking. "But you don't know what they did to me!" Trust me, I have had my fair share of hurt before. From friends to family. I may not know or have been through your exact situation, but I can promise you I have been through some hurt in my life. And it took me an incredibly long time to learn to forgive. Which also lead to an incredibly long time of unhappiness.

I don't want you to go through any hurt but we all go through it. And I also don't want you to live a single day of unhappiness. Who ever it was that hurt you, no matter what they did, forgive them. Even if they don't deserve it. 

Still unsure about forgiving them? Let's try to look at it a different way.

Judas was one of the 12 disciples. He was also the one that told the chief priests where Jesus would be so that they could capture him and eventually crucify him. Judas lead the crowd to Jesus and gave him a gently kiss on the cheek. A kiss of betrayal. But still Jesus forgave Judas and hung on the cross for him. Just like he did you and me. So if Jesus can forgive Judas for betraying him, the least I can do is forgive others who have hurt me.

Recovery

I know I haven't been posting like normal but I have been recovering from surgery and I am thankful that you have been patient with me through this healing process.

If you missed this post, you can go back and read it to gain background for this post.

This past Friday, I had a diagnostic laparoscopy done to try to figure out what was causing so much pain in my abdominal and pelvic area. Friday morning when I woke up I was calm and was very ready for the procedure to be done and over with. I wasn't nervous, anxious, or anything like that. I mainly was so desperate to figure out what had been causing the pain for so long. All day Friday I was pretty much on and coming off of pain meds from the surgery. So all of that is a complete blur and finally Saturday morning Brett was able to tell me what the doctor found out.

I'm no doctor so all of this is kind of new to me. Apparently your small intestine is just in your body floating around and that's how it was supposed to be.

**Background story. My freshman year of high school I had to have my appendix removed because it was causing so much pain and was on the verge of rupturing.**

Back to the surgery. Once I was filled with gas and tools inserted in my expanded stomach, the doctor saw that my small intestine wasn't just floating around like it should be. It was actually attached to where my appendix use to be. How gross. So there it is, just hanging out, attached, and growing to my pelvic wall. I honestly would have never guessed that would have been the cause of so much pain that I was enduring. Those two are now separated and will hopefully remain separated, forever.

Also while digging in my body, my doctor found some white spots on my uterus. She said that she didn't think it was anything to be worried about but she took a sample and is having it tested just in case.  I go back Friday morning for a follow up appointment which she will go into detail with me about everything and of course look at my battle wounds.

One thing I want you to learn from my experience is don't just avoid the pain. The pain is there and that means something is wrong. Don't just let doctors push you around, give you medicine, or send you to different doctors because they don't want to deal with it. Go with your gut instinct and rely on God. You know your body better than the doctors do and if there is pain, please have it seen about. Don't just settle for anything less than answers.

The Childless Mother

In honor of Mother’s Day coming up this Sunday, I am dedicating this post to all you women out there. That’s right, all of you women. Not just the moms.

This Mother’s Day, there will be joy and sadness, laughter and crying, love and regret. There are many moms who have birthed children or adopted children, moms who have lost children, and women who cannot have children for whatever reason.

But there is one thing I want each woman reading this to know. You are a mom and you might not even realize it.

The definition of mother is to give birth or to care for or protect like a mother. It doesn’t say you can only give birth to a child in order to be a mother.

Is there a younger girl, lady, or child that looks up to you? Maybe comes to you for advice or maybe help with homework? You’re acting as a mother to her. In fact, we as women are called to be mother-like or mentor to the younger generation.

Titus 2:3-5 –

Older women like-wise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, that the word of God may not be reviled.

Let’s think about that for a minute. We are to train the young women. It was clearly stated. You can’t just go through a crowd and say “Her. I pick her. I will mentor her into the woman she needs to be.” That’s kind of not how it works. Prayer. Be in much prayer for God to give you that you lady to mentor and teach her. And if you aren’t ready to be a mentor spiritually, pray that God will give you a mentor and grow you into the woman you need to be to become a mentor to someone else. I know that without a doubt God put me with my mentor. There is no other explanation.

So happy Mother's Day to all you beautiful ladies out there!

Jokester

Have you ever heard a yo' mamma joke? If you have, raise your hand. [And then smile because you know I won't see you do it.] What about the blonde jokes? The sexual jokes? Jokes directed towards other people? I'm sure there is not one person reading this that hasn't heard at least one of those kind of jokes in their lifetime. And if we're completely honest with ourselves, we've all said one of those kind of jokes in our lifetime.

Now, I love a good joke just about as much as anyone. My husband is always hearing (and retelling) new jokes. I especially love eating a good ol' popsicle with our daughter and then when you get to the end there is always a joke on the stick. (You know what kind I'm talking about.) The joke that was on the last popsicle that I had said... "Why did Susie eat her test paper? Her teacher said it was a piece of cake." -Que drums *ba dum chhh!- 

What's the difference between the jokes mentioned earlier and the joke from the popscicle stick? It was clean. There was nothing crude, rude, or filthiness about the joke. I know what most of you are thinking. That joke was also lame. Maybe. But let me get to the point. Just because it is a joke doesn't mean it has to be filled with harsh language or filthiness.

Ephesians 5:4 -

"Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, 

which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving."

Did that hit a spot? Maybe you aren't the one telling the jokes but one of the ones laughing, hilariously, about it. Because you laughed and didn't stop the joke, you have just committed the same sin. James 3 talks about taming the tongue. It says that no human being can tame the tongue and it is full of deadly poison. James also talks about how blessing and cursing come out of the same mouth and this should not be happening. 

There are tons of comedians that are family friendly and easy on the ears. Chonda Pierce happens to be a gut wrenching, side splitting, hilarious, female Christian comedian. If you have never seen her you should definitely check her out.

Just think about this before you tell your next joke. Everyone is listening. The Christians and the non-Christians. 1 Corinthians 8:9 tells us to be careful what we say and do. To not be a stumbling block to the weak.

The Final Say

Growing up, my parents taught my brother and me to very independent. I'm talking very independent. Probably so independent that I liked to change my own oil in my car. (I know, I know. But I enjoyed it) So we've established that I'm independent.

When Brett and I got married, I was still that much independent if not more now because I wanted to prove that just because I was married didn't mean I needed to lose my independence. And it is true. Many people, like me, think that once you're married you lose that independence and think you have to fully rely on your spouse. However, your husband is the head of the house hold and should be the one in charge.

Ephesians 5:22-24 - 

"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband 

is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his 

body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, 

so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands."

It is clearly written that we are to submit to our husband as we submit to Christ. I do believe that if a situation arises, the husband and wife should discuss the situation and in the end the husband needs to be the one to make the final call. Because when we sit before the throne on judgement day, God is not going to ask us wives how we handled our household. He is going to turn to your husband and ask how he handled his own household.

But your husband is wrong? Yeah probably at times he may be wrong about something and you may be right. But in the end, we as wives are told to submit and support. Through the good times and bad. And when he is wrong what do you do? Chew up that pride and swallow it.

In Luke 22:39-46 we see where Jesus goes to the Mount of Olives and prays. He prays that God will take the cup from him (a symbolization of his future sacrifice) and whether God was to take it away or not, He would still make sacrifice.

To me, the is the perfect example of submission. Jesus asks for the future suffering be taken away but He would do it anyway. If Jesus can submit to that kind of pain and suffering, I can submit to my husband.




[*This post does not apply to anyone that is under any kind of abuse, mental or physical. If you or someone you know is under any kind of abuse, please seek help. You can go to your local police dept., shelter, or church. If you do not feel comfortable going to any of these, please contact me at shesundergrace@gmail.com, which is checked multiple times during the day, and we will get you the help that you need together.]

I Just Read What?

How many times have you read a verse or a chapter in the bible and had no clue about what you had just read? I know as a new Christian, this happens a lot. When I first accepted Christ I really had no clue how to study the bible other than read the verses and just go with it. But I found a way that helps me understand what I am reading. If you want to use this method you are more than welcome to. There are also tons of different ways to study the bible. This one just helps me. And before you start any study you should always pray and ask God to be with you and speak to you so clearly that you understand what He is trying to tell you.

{This first thing I do is read the scripture.} Sometimes I will read the verse over and over again until I feel like I understand what is being said. you can read it silently or read it aloud. I prefer to read it silently a few times and if I still do not understand then I will read it out loud.

{The second thing I do is observe.} This is where I figure out what part of the verse or chapter that stood out to me. There are times when it is just a small word that stands out. While other times, the whole verse just blows my mind.

{The last thing I do is see how I can apply it to my everyday life.} Is what you read something you can use for your marriage? Friendships? Your job? Your ministry? Whatever verse you read can always be applied to your life in some way.

As you're going through the study, feel free to write things down. Some things that you may write down might not make sense but somewhere down the road, the light bulb will turn on and you can always go back and study again.

What happens if you read something and after much prayer and studying you still don't get it? Ask someone. Don't ever be ashamed in asking what something means. The only way to learn is it

Do you use this method? If not, how do you study the bible? Leave a comment below and let me know! 

Finding Peace in Trying Times

For today's post, I'm going to get real personal with ya'll. I will always be open and honest with my readers and I have no intention of sugar coating anything that is ever posted.

Rolling back to when I was 18: 

When I was 18 I started having terrible pains in my ovaries. They would be sharp shooting pains like I was being stabbed. I saw a doctor about it and she told me that it was just cysts on my ovaries and that they would pop around certain times of the month which is normal. She prescribed me birth control and said it would help. (Throughout the years they have continued and since she said it was normal I just left it at that)

Moving forward to 2013:

Last year around this time I started having other issues going on. For instance, right before that 'time' my back and neck would hurt like something I have never felt before. I'm not talking normal back aches that some women get. I'm talking not being able to get out of bed and perform daily activities kind of thing. This lasted a couple months and I was prescribed different medicines each month to try to rid the pain. (Which I was being treated for UTI's.) The pain didn't return and I thought I was in the clear.

Moving forward to February 2014:

This past February, the back and neck pain started again. I was prescribed some medicine and was sent to a urologist to try to figure why I was having so many "UTI's". That doctor said that I was not having them and she didn't know what they were. 

Moving forward to March:
This past March the pain came back. This time my doctor tested me for different diseases through lots and lots of blood work. Everything came back normal. Was prescribed some other meds and sent on my way. I talked to one gynecologist and was told I needed to see a chiropractor. (Yeah, I definitely didn't believe him since he didn't even want to see me.) I saw another gynecologist and he was at a loss as to what is causing all of these problems. He suggested a colonoscopy. I left his office and just cried. I probably cried for a solid hour because I desperately wanted to know what was wrong and no one seemed to have any answers. (And still don't) When I saw the doctor for the colonoscopy he didn't think that was my problem and said we didn't need to do that and I was sent on my way. (I am not complaining about that one)

Moving forward to April:

Last month, that pain was back again (6th months total, 3 times in the last year). Running out of things to check for, my doctor ordered me a CT Scan. Thankfully, the scan came back clean. Nothing showed up and I was good to go. 

Throughout all of this time, my ovaries have continued to get worse and worse. Some days I don't want to do anything but lay on the heating pad on a couch all day long. Some days are better than others and I can function normally. I know that I have a job to do such as wife, mom, and a full time job. So I get up everyday and put my mind on the tasks at hand and just try to avoid the pain (ha).

This morning, I go to see another doctor in hopes of more answers. This will be my 5th doctor trying to find out what is going on. This whole last year has taught me at least one thing. It's not in my control. No matter what I do to try to fix it, prevent it, or what doctor I see, it's not in my control. It's all in God's hands. And there is absolutely nothing I can do to try and change that. I can't make the doctors tell me if they don't know and I surely can't change the results of whatever it may be. But I am now at peace with everything. I know that no matter what happens, God has a plan. Like I said, nothing I can do can change anything. If this doctor doesn't know, I will continue to find a doctor that will figure it out. If it is something that a little medicine or a procedure can fix, I am at peace. If the results come out terrible, I am at peace as well. I know that the one that loves me the most and has the best interest in mind will take care of me.  

God's word says:

Matthew 6:27 -

"And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?"

No one. Worrying helps no one. Saves no one. Or gives anyone peace.

Which brings me to this verse:

Jeremiah 29:11 -

"For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you hope and a future."

He has a plan in whatever the outcome may be with this situation.  And with yours as well. I don't know your situation personally but He does. Trust in Him. He has a plan and will see it through. 

Simple Saturday

Congrats to Gina Coker on winning the 5 Love Languages book by Gary Chapman. We will get it to you this week! Thank you for your support!

Here is your thought for today:

We never grow closer to God when we just live life. It takes deliberate pursuit and attentiveness.

-Francis Chan

5 Love Languages Day 5.

Are you just catching up with us for our 5 day series on the 5 love languages? If you haven’t yet, the link below will take you to the 5 love languages quiz so you will know what yours is. It takes maybe 5 minutes to complete.

5 Love Languages Quiz

Day 1: Acts of Service

Day 2: Quality Time

Day 3: Words of Affirmation

Day 4: Receiving Gifts

Day 5: Physical Touch

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Our last and final love language is physical touch. This is my love language and the one I could probably talk the most on. But I will try not to bore you too much. If this is your love language (or your spouse’s) you most feel loved when you are touched. Physical touch doesn’t just mean intimacy. It could be a simple act of just holding hands, a hug, or a simple touch on the face. My husband’s love language as I told you in a previous post is words of affirmation. So the whole touchy feely isn’t really his thing. He will however randomly hug me if we’re together and what really means the most to me is every night as we’re lying in bed, our feet simply touch. Like some people would love to be just cuddled up as they fall asleep, I just simply like for our feet to touch. It’s a small gesture that he does to show me love.

Is this your spouse’s love language? Here’s my challenge to you. Today, give them a hug and maybe slide in a kiss (it’s okay if it lingers).

Is this your love language? Leave a comment below and let me know! {You will also be entered in the free drawing!}

5 Love Languages Day 4.

Are you just catching up with us for our 5 day series on the 5 love languages? If you haven’t yet, the link below will take you to the 5 love languages quiz so you will know what yours is. It takes maybe 5 minutes to complete.

5 Love Languages Quiz

Day 1: Acts of Service

Day 2: Quality Time

Day 3: Words of Affirmation

Day 4: Receiving Gifts

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Our 4^th love language is receiving gifts. I’m not sure how much more I could expand on that because it means what it says. You most feel loved when your spouse gives you gifts. It could be anything from a new scarf, a tool (for the guys) to something extravagant like jewelry or a new car. Just because you feel loved by receiving gifts doesn’t mean you have to have the most expensive things. The smaller things still make you feel loved.

Is this your spouse’s love language? Here is my challenge to you.

Get creative and give them a gift today! It can be as expensive or as inexpensive to fit your budget.

 

Is this your love language? Comment below and let me know! {You will also be entered into the drawing for a free gift!}